Hello again readers. The first thing I would like to do is say thank you to all those of you who have left comments and words of encouragement on Facebook and in person. I really did not think as many people would read and respond to it the way you have. You are now giving me another reason to continue this journey. Your encouragement means a lot.
So, last Tuesday I met with Shannon at Revolutionary Wellness. The first thing we did was take measurements and weight. After two weeks of dieting, my Chest went from 45” to 44”, Arm stayed at 13”, waist went from 49” to 47.5” and hips went from 44” to 43”. My weight went from 229 pounds to 222 pounds. I am kind of anxious to see what today’s weigh in is.
So, what did we learn this week? First, whenever people find out you are on a diet, they immediately inundate you with all kinds of diets and tricks to lose weight. I have been given all kinds of advice on things to eat, not to eat, how to eat, how not to eat, when to eat, when not to eat…you get the idea.
People have all different kinds of beliefs when it comes to how to eat healthy. They sometimes so fiercely believe in them that it is unwise to argue with them. You know how they say you should never discuss politics, religion, and sex in mixed company? I vote to add dieting to that list. It is not that any of these people are right or wrong. As I was told in my first meeting, there is no one diet that will work for everyone. I am glad that I made the decision to work with Shannon, as she has taken the time to find out about me, not just my eating habits, but the type of person I am. She created a meal plan that seems to be working.
Second. It was almost a self-rediscovery week. As I may have stated before, I have over thirteen years of sobriety under my belt (as well as thirteen years of fast food, doughnuts, pizza, cake, etc.). When I was drinking, my best description was “all gas, no break”. Apparently when I gave up drinking, I retained the “all gas, no break” philosophy. I also have a need to want to fix things and please people. Unfortunately, my enthusiasm for things I want to do can sometimes get ahead of me.
I have had to come to terms with the concept that others will not always be as passionate about the things that I am and that is ok. It is all about finding balance. I need to think more about how I can accomplish the things I want to get accomplished without driving the people around me crazy. I really need to get to “less gas, more break”.
This balance is also needed in my personal life as well. My wife and I have an eight-year-old daughter who is doing full time virtual school and I help my mother care for my father, who has been diagnosed with Vascular Dementia and we believe Alzheimer’s as well. When things go bad on either one of those fronts, I find myself retreating more into work and pushing myself and those around me to do better for our community. I have replaced drinking with my need to help people and please people.
While wanting to help people and pleasing people are both noble attributes, as they say, everything in moderation. You know the old saying, “too much of a good thing…”. It is also a form of escape for me. I can put aside the family issues that I cannot control into making a tangible difference with things I can. I do that instead of dealing with those other issues.
I believe that we are all guilty of using rather mundane things in our lives as a way of escaping the things we do not want to deal with or cannot change. Such typical acts of eating, working, exercising, volunteering, gaming and hobbies are all good things, without balance they can be just as dangerous as drugs and alcohol. I believe that finding that balance is key.
So, Thursday is Thanksgiving. I am sure today Shannon and I will discuss healthy habits for the holiday meal as well as my next weigh in. So, until next week, I wish you all a very Happy Thanksgiving and I hope you find the balance that you may be seeking.
Written by: Craig Repanshek